If you want to make money, you take action to get a job or open a business. If you want to lose weight, you take action to exercise or to change the way you eat. But when it comes to achieving happiness, most people mistakenly assume you’ll naturally get that euphoric state without taking action.
So how does one become happy?
Is it having loads of money? Is it following your passion? Is it having a purpose in life?
When I was younger, I didn’t have a purpose and that’s not a bad thing at all. I did what was required of me and then I did things that made me happy. I was never sad because I was broke. I hung out with broke friends and they are still my friends today because I’m happy when I’m with them.
As I got older and have more control of my life, basically, I graduated college and found poker, it was easier (and I have more choices) to do things that made me happy.
The question is what you need to do to be happy.
I use something I called a happiness scale.
Basically, every day, I think of activities and people that increase my happiness level and I do my best to do those activities and be around those people. It’s amazing how talking to people who are motivated, energetic, and have a thirst for life motivates you. This is the main reason why people talk about pets and restaurants. Because it gives them opportunities to talk about things that make them happy. It’s even better if they can talk to people who makes them happy as well.
I do my best to avoid people who suck the energy out of me and people who are negative. They pull you down. It’s not a coincidence that when you think of your friends, you think of people who bring smiles to your face. Negative people don’t do that and don’t contribute anything to your life but pain and annoyances. Although it’s gut-wretching, over time, we naturally move away from these people. For me, I make sure I avoid them because it’s going to happen anyway. I might as well start now.
If you want to be happy, make it your #1 goal in life.
Once you start focusing on being happy, your life will be better. You know that exercising and eating healthy foods will make you happy but if for whatever reason, you don’t want to do it, this basically means that you don’t value happiness enough. Imagine if I give you a million dollar every time you go to the gym, would you do it? Of course you would. But like everyone with money know, in the end, it’s not the money that get you to smile every day. It’s your friends and family that you love and care for.
It seems daunting but if you strategize how to be happy, you can achieve it. DAILY. And it’s not that hard.
It takes simple steps. It takes time. If you find yourself giving a reason why you can’t do it, find a friend who doesn’t have this attitude and ask him to help you out. He will help you out. All of us have someone who love life and they will be ECSTATIC to help you live a better life. I always love it when someone asks me how to be healthy or what place/restaurant to visit.
Everything along the way to happiness is just gravy. Whether it is making money, creating products, going places, etc. Just make sure you make happiness your #1 goal. It’s like making sure playing perfect poker is your #1 goal. The money will follow, your peers will respect you, etc.
So write down the things that you can get rid of in your life to make you feel better ie weed, soda, fast foods, etc. You will see a change in your mood right away.
Start today. Put yourself in positions to BE HAPPY! You deserve it. That is if you are sure that happiness is what you want.